Submission and Servitude by Miss Patty (patty the pooch) These are two words that have a great deal of meaning to me. During my 17 years in the D/S lifestyle I have learned so much about myself as a person and a submissive. During my seven years of servitude to Ms.C. I have matured and grown to be the person I am today. With this experience and knowledge, I am able to bring special insights when I express that other side of me, Miss Patty. As Miss Patty, I accept submissive trainees willing to explore and learn the depths of their own submission. Everyone takes these words submission and servitude and derives different meanings from them depending on where their head space is at the moment. I feel to give of one self totally to a Dominant woman, submitting and surrending to Her totally can be very beautiful. As a lifestyle sub I give of myself, physically, emotionally, and spiritually to my Owners. As a dedicated training Mistress, I expect as much from my submissive trainees. I know that such a relationship needs to be nurtured. Submission is not a "game" to me when I am horny. It is something that comes from deep within me. It is something that I do not give away freely as it is too meaningful to me. Servitude is something that I do daily. I serve in many ways such as waiting on Mistress, going on errands for Her on foot or using public transportation, cleaning the house, doing laundry, taking care of the pets, cleaning Her leathers or "toys", etc. I also have the honor to serve Her personally, the care of Her feet and Her intimate needs. Submission must be more than a sexual urge to be real. When it is only sexual, it disappears after the orgasm. Who then will serve the Mistress? When I submit to my Mistress, I do so with all of my love and adoration. I know that it is my place to sit and kneel in Her presense. I know that I must ask permission before I begin eating at each meal, I know that I must abide by certain rules each day and I have those certain responsibilities that are listed in my "slave contract". Do I choose to live any other way? No, this is the lifestyle that makes me very happy. True, the reality of my life with Ms.C. is not for everyone. I do not put down others for their particular turn-ons in B/D S/M because we all have our likes and dislikes. It does tend to upset me when I see some of the disrespect out there today toward Dominants. If one calls themself a submissive, this does not mean that you only have to be respectful towards a Dom when you are "playing" or are "in scene". All Doms deserve to be addressed by Their title whether you are "playing" or in Their presense in a B/D S/M club, party, or other scene activity. I never sit on the furniture in the presense of Doms unless I have permission to do so by my Mistress. I expect to be treated the same by my submissive trainees. I also can assure you that a Dominant does not care for a submissive who is "drunk" on alcohol or "high" on drugs in Their presense. I often ask my Mistress, "What happened to the subs who believe in true submission and servitude"? She shakes her head in disbelief and once told me, "that is why you must teach, you can help them learn the reality of submission and servitude." What better way to teach than to be a Mistress? However, I prefer to be addressed as Miss Patty in respect to all the full time Dominant women out there. And I remain my Mistress's dedicated submissive. I know that there are still some of us devoted to reality out here. I cannot begin to tell you the "pride" I feel when my Mistress tells me my house cleaning has passed Her inspection, or that I have done a good job in carrying out my other duties. Yes, I feel that pride also when She has praised me for all that I have endured for Her during a "training class" or during "playtime". If She allows another Dominant Female to play with me, I feel that pride once again when I give my submission to that Dom in the presense of my Owner. It is this sense of pride I wish to inspire in my submissive trainees. If I ever fail to please my Mistress in anyway, although I know that I will be punished, the pain I feel inside for displeasing Her hurts far more then any physical punishment ever could. All submissives make mistakes now and then. A Dominant who cares enough to correct that subs mistakes cares enough to make that sub learn to serve Her better so that she or he will please Her. I believe punishment should fit the crime and should not be part of a submissive's fantasy. That would hardly correct behavior. Yes, submission and servitude are more than just words to me. When my Mistress had decided to allow another Dominant Female to share Ownership of me, it was a very serious decision that She thought about for awhile and then discussed with me. We do not take Ownership lightly as it is too real for us. I know that for my Mistress to allow another to share Ownership with Her was a honor that I knew I should feel grateful for. I give of my heart and soul as well as with my body. It is this devotion I hope to inspire in my own submissive trainees. Sometimes to serve and submit to a Dominant a submissive gives of themselves so deeply that they tend to become emotionally involved with that Dom. I am fortunate enough to feel that love in return from Ms.C. Although there were times in my life as a submissive that I may have felt those emotions but they were not returned because I was just a slave in that Doms life, She had another who She gave those emotions to. It is not a guarantee that a Dominant will love you, it is not even expected. What is expected is submission and servitude. Many submissives tend to become infatuated with, obsessed with, or in love with that Dominant they serve and submit to. This is quite normal but it can be very painful when one finds out that the feelings will never be returned in the same way. Most Dominants already have the partner of Their choice and only look at submissives as slaves or playthings. There is a certain type of fondness that a Dom tends to feel toward certain submissives who serve Them, but it may not be the same feelings that the sub wishes They felt. And this is as it should be, the owner cannot love every servant. She can, however, recognize and reward excellent service. Such is the life of a submissive.