Social and Spiritual Aspects of Surrender by Ms.C., Femina Society It is always a pleasure for me to write for publications that see more to Feminine Authority than male entertainment. I am pleased to offer the following discussion. Much of servitude to woman is seen as kinky games these days. A negotiated fantasy play land where males do not really have to submit their will, but only play at it. Women are expected to provide all the means to these fantasies and must not expect a thing in return, no money, no future security, no relationship, just thankless obedience to male fantasy. It comes as no surprise, since we live in a society where men take and women give, anything else is considered a "sin" or a "crime", and morally reprehensible. Males in our present society have been indoctrinated into the patriarchal philosophy that governs all our lives. It is a philosophy based on a male god, as creator of all things, and in male superiority. The basis of this philosophy is founded in scriptures, the Holy Bible, that was created and written by men. It is supported by a judiciary system based upon these Judeo Christian concepts and laws, also written by men, that are interpreted and enforced by male judges. Men also control almost all positions of leadership and authority in government. Men control most of the wealth, influence and power in our society. This has afforded men an additional 2,000 years of special "divine" rights, privileges and treatment that has fostered a belief that men, created in the likeness of the male god, are superior and more intelligent than women. Because of the enforcing patriarchal religious myth (Garden of Eden), in which the male god proclaimed a male's birth right to control, dominate and subjugate woman, men feel that this behavior is religiously, socially and morally correct. Women, on the other hand, are taught from birth to bow down and grovel at the feet of males who are considered gods, and to love, honor and obey males who have been god-given authority and control over their lives. Women have accepted this situation, behavior of men and born-slave status without objection because it is a tradition that has been passed down from mother to daughter for hundreds of years. Until very recently, it has been accepted as "normal". A male who has been raised in this patriarchal society has been conditioned to believe he is naturally dominant and superior, and thus expects "special" treatment. He views himself as the center of all his relationships. When he talks, he expects everyone to listen and place importance on his words. When he is hungry, he expects a meal to be prepared and served that will be to his liking. When a patriarchal man is bored he expects to be amused and entertained. When a patriarchal male wants to play kinky games, he will visit a Dominatrix and order what he desires. And when he desires sex, he expects "his" woman to strip naked and obediently and submissively spread her legs for his sexual needs and desires. If the woman should desire anything in return for herself, be it money or sexual fulfillment or companionship, she is viewed as a whore. These expectations are expected to be filled by women without question, and unfortunately, the reality is that they are by a majority of women. In doing so, women perpetuate the cycle to encourage and sanction their own domination as a subservient slave to all males. Thus is enforced the male notion that he is superior to all women and that women were created for his pleasure and amusement. It is so pervasive, many women can not conceive how they are being duped by the very religion they believe in. The winds of change, the Goddess wave, is slowly picking up momentum and sweeping across the land. Women are demanding their rights in ever increasing numbers. No longer will they accept the misuses of man simply because "the Bible tells me so!" Women are questioning and rejecting scripture and patriarchal religious authority. Women are not staying silent anymore. Women are finding unity in a diverse number of groups, and have become politically active in striving for positive change. They have rediscovered the power of Sisterhood. Feminine Authority is becoming popular as a reality, rather than a male masturbation game. Some women are beginning to discover they have a herstory that pre-dates the patriarchal religion by thousands of years. There was a time when Feminine Authority and the Goddess was revered and worshipped as the creative force of all life. Women were the sacred Priestesses that were honored and respected as representative of the Goddess. Women were not viewed as sex objects, toys, on a pedestal, but as the leaders who governed and ruled the community. Women held ownership of all property. It was the mother's family name that was given to their children, not the father's as it is today. Inheritance was passed from mother to daughter. It was a time of peace and harmony in the world. With the reawakening of Matriarchal possibility and Goddess spirituality, women are rediscovering and reclaiming their feminine powers and their rightful position in society. The present patriarchal society has created a world gone mad through the three male "virtues" of greed, lust and violence. A Matriarchal society is necessary to restore balance and to establish the Feminine Authority needed to provide the structure and discipline that is lacing in a male dominated world. As more women discover the Goddess and Her ways, they are reclaiming their positions as Her Priestesses and are beginning to provide leadership and direction in the creation of this new society. There are a handful of intelligent Dominas, both in small groups and alone, who are working toward the establishment of a true Matriarchal order and a structure of Feminine Authority. Their techniques and views may slightly vary, but the intent is the same. Giving women back their birthright and teaching men responsibility. The very existence of this publication is proof that such women exist in greater numbers. There are a few males, eventually drawn to these powerful Dominas with a vision, also rediscovering the Goddess, as well as their own Femininity (yin/yang) within, and realize the need to restore Feminine Authority to it's rightful place in society. These men realize and acknowledge the damage caused by the patriarchal philosophy. They understand that in order to restore balance and eliminate the deep indoctrination this philosophy has imprinted on their brain, there is a need to re-establish a new Matriarchal social structure and the restoration of the Goddess as the Creatress of all life. Such men, who are willing to surrender their undeserved, unjustified special rights and privileges granted to them by the patriarchy, have accepted the Goddess and Her ways. These men are learning to submit to Goddess Priestesses (Dominas) in order to be trained to take their rightful place in the new order, and to be healed from the effects of a lifetime of damage caused by patriarchal conditioning. While these men know that the Goddess loves them unconditionally, they also know that in order to correct their patriarchal conditioning, it will be necessary to endure a reverse process of Matriarchal conditioning in which they must completely submit to the authority of a Goddess Priestess and surrender to Her will. At this point in the healing process, there can be no talk of male equality. The male must learn unconditional surrender. The male who accepts this lifestyle must be prepared to undergo severe re-training, as well as physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual discipline. He must endure a process that will provide behavior modification and alteration as part of his education and enlightenment. The education of the male is not an easy process, nothing of value ever is, but it must be accomplished if real and lasting change is to take place. The male must keep in mind the effort the Domina is imparting to afford him this healing; her strength, planning, intelligence, compassion and perseverance are the backbone of any successful education. If the male does not take each and every directive seriously, he is making a mockery of his own submission and a failure of his own enlightenment. Perhaps once all concepts of a patriarchal god have been completely eliminated from the male psyche, there can be a male godling to symbolize and serve as a role model for males. A godling orbits around the Goddess as his center, and who serves the Goddess and Her earthly forms (Dominas) with undying love. Before introduction of the godling concept during training, the primary goal for the present is the creation of a Matriarchal state in which males can rediscover the Goddess through Feminine Authority, and their connection to Her. Such trained and enlightened males will form the vanguard of teachers and role models for other men as we return to the Goddess and Her ways. How is the uncorrected male trained and taught the reality of Feminine Authority? Patriarchal men are very egotistical and self-centered. The male should kneel naked at the feet of the Domina. This is a sign of acceptance of Feminine Authority, that he should kneel meekly at her most sacred feet. But it is only a sign. The male is asked is he would like to pay homage to her superior feet and legs. Of course, the male reply is yes. But what are the motives. Are they truly Goddess oriented or still based in fetish play? The corrected male accepts the Domina as the Priestess who embodies the Goddess. Nothing less. Thus, it would be an honor to be given the privilege of paying homage to her lotus feet. Somewhere in our genes is a memory of showing submission, respect and love by kissing the feet of the living representatives of the Goddess, Her Priestesses. This, like all Goddess traditions, has been distorted and perverted by the patriarchy that devalues anything feminine. However, even today the expression "kiss my feet" is still used to tell another person that you are not going to do what he wants. In fact you are his superior, that he should bow down to you and show proper respect. In the case of a submissive, even though he may be expected to perform this act as a symbol of obedience and submission to Feminine Authority, he may be judged unworthy and denied. Any physical contact with the Domina is a reward and honor to be earned and cherished. The submissive worships the feet of the Domina. In the "Bagavad gita" it says: just try to learn the truth by approaching a spiritual Master. Inquire from her submissively and render service unto her. The self-realized soul can impart knowledge unto you because she has seen the truth." This passage advises that the path of spiritual realization is undoubtedly difficult, and therefore we need to approach a Priestess (Domina) for guidance. Such a Domina has seen the truth herself, and is herself an incarnation of the Goddess. Thus one must approach the Domina to receive her knowledge. She need not freely offer, sincere students will find their way to her. Such a Domina should be accepted with full surrender, and one should serve such a Domina as a menial servant, without false prestige. There is no submission in grandly announcing how wonderful one can serve, or how gaudily they can emulate the woman as a "show boat", such is false male pride, purely detrimental to Feminine Authority. True submissive pride is humble, and serves in quiet humility. The Domina will teach the submissive male how she desires her feet to be worshipped. In the Hindu religion, if one wants to approach the Priestess (Domina), the regulative principle is that he should surrender himself at her lotus feet. Touching the feet is the traditional understanding for a disciple in approaching the Priestess, or the Goddess. It expresses the complete humility of the submissive when done in total surrender. Kneeling beneath the feet of the Domina means that the submissive takes her instructions upon his head (mind) in humility and is ready to carry them out as her menial servant. Whoever takes the shelter of the lotus feet of the Priestess is, in fact, taking the shelter of the Goddess Herself, and can cross over the ocean of birth and death. Surrendering oneself and worshipping the feet of the Domina reverently is not an ordinary thing, but a ritual of submission. In India, disciples repeatedly come to the Priestess asking to be her puppet, asking her to engage him and make him dance. When the Priestess commands, he must jump and dance. Her empowering is simply that he obey the command, just as the dog obeys the commands: "sit, roll over, fetch. etc." The command is there, the Domina can determine the sincerity be seeing who will jump and dance, and who will simply continue repeating, "Oh, please make me dance," as if he cannot hear the command and is swept into his own mind's fantasy. The reality he cannot comprehend. The submissive's surrender is tested by his ability to take commands rather than just seek them. He is tested by pure discipline. His sincerity is tested by his obedience to worship at the lotus feet of the Domina in a respectful manner, as she commands. The submissive may not know or understand the great privilege that the Domina is bestowing upon him in allowing him to worship her feet, but if he is sincere and obedient, enlightenment will follow. The female form is made in the likeness of the Goddess. Everything feminine is sacred and worthy of worship. Today we use the expression "kiss my ass" in a manner to suggest that if the person were to do so, it would be degrading. If one truly believes in Feminine Authority and in the sacredness of the female form, he would consider it an honor to pay homage to any part of the female body. The idea of "forced" body worship, as in forced feminization, suggests there is something disgusting in being female. This is a concept totally incompatible with true Feminine Authority. The ultimate test of surrender and submission to Feminine Authority by a patriarchal male is in his willingly performing the act of kissing and licking the Domina's buttocks. Not as a prelude to his own orgasm, but as an act of reverence and obeisance. Most males, even so-called submissive ones, consider themselves superior to any female, even Dominas. However, after a serious training in kissing and licking the female buttocks, accompanied with vivid descriptions of exactly what he was doing, it is truly impossible for the male to consider himself superior ever again. The ritual of body worship must be carried out in a non-sexual context, otherwise temporary lust will revert to supposed superiority by the one-track male. The female breasts are very sacred. One ancient Goddess statue depicts many breasts. This is not because the ancient ones were obsessed with breasts. Such a depiction conveys the sacredness, the source of sustenance, without which humans would not survive. Thus breasts were part of the female mystery, that which sustained, nurtured and mothered. Patriarchal distortions that make everything natural a perversion, have cast their malignant light on any nude depictions of females. Thus it was planned that only "sinners" would consider the female form beautiful and sacred, not just a vessel to receive male lust. What is now called pornography was once considered sacred illustrations of the divine "dance of life". It was necessary for the patriarchal builders to make such a move if woman was to be suppressed. The female breast is the form that inspired the chalice on the altar and the mystery of the Holy Grail. There are many ancient traditions that speak of the Goddess as a nursing mother to the world. The famous statue of Artemis at Ephesus breast-covered torso suggested overflowing nourishment for all creatures. Enlightenment and even immortality (Holy Grail) were said to be available to those who discovered how to drink the Goddess's milk. A Tantric aphorism states: "Deathless are those who have fed at the breasts of the Mother of the Universe". The submissive male might be allowed to look upon the breasts of the Domina if he can contain his base lust and appreciate the honor. It is a test of his progress to observe how he looks upon the Domina. The submissive male is not allowed to touch the breasts of the Domina until he is worthy of such an honor. The female vagina is the gateway of life, and it is this meaning that is symbolized in ancient Goddess images around the world. The Goddess is the source of all. The Domina may allow the submissive to gaze upon her panty covered vagina. The very color of her lacy panties may be symbolic to the event. Example, purple is the color associated with the Crown Chakra that expresses a connection with all and Goddess spirit. The panty crotch symbolizes the veil to the feminine mystery. The male must learn that everything female is sacred and is to be worshiped. He will be made to beg and plead for the honor of receiving a pair of the Domina's well worn panties, and the privilege of worshipping them. The triangle, the yoni-yantra as the vagina is known, represents the Great Mother as the source of all life, the cosmic womb. The garment that the submissive begs to receive and worship had covered the Domina's most sacred feminine temple, her vagina. The yoni is extolled as a sacred area, the gateway to mysteries. In this way, the submissive male learns that everything relating to the female is sacred. His goal is to be found worthy to worship everything feminine. If he is hesitant or uncomprehending, he has yet to learn the importance of woman, he has yet to put the Domina in her rightful place as his Queen. The new postulant submissive male will be denied the honor of paying homage to the Domina's sacred body. Instead he will be ordered to assume the belly down position on the floor and told not to move. It is in this position that the male can be left while the Domina retires to the next room where her Handmaiden awaits. She has been judged worthy of reward for her efforts, while the male will only be allowed to listen from a distance. This is an important lesson for the male submissive to learn. In a Matriarchal society, the male is no longer the center of attention. He is not the special little darling or showboat of the Domina. His submission is expected, nothing to be praised. His feminization is a step toward enlightenment, not a caricature of Woman. He no longer has any unwarranted special rights or privileges because of his gender. The male learns that he will now be the one who will serve Feminine Authority. No longer will his self centered, egotistical attitude be tolerated, and such behavior will be dealt with severely, on that he can be certain. This is an important step for the male escaping his patriarchal conditioning in order to recover from it's damaging effects. The submissive male can now recover his own dormant femininity, restore his own inner balance, and rediscover the Goddess and a return to Her ways. The male is left laying on the floor like an insignificant worm and forced to accept the idea that if he is ever to obtain the precious time and attention of the Domina, he must earn it by proving himself worthy. The male must surrender himself completely to the will of the Domina Priestess in order to be trained in usefulness and to take his proper place in the new society. Achievement of these goals requires behavior modification, elimination of the male ego, and all previous patriarchal conditioning. As the male listens, he will learn that although the Handmaiden is being rewarded, her time with the Domina will begin with a lesson in proper discipline. Discipline is not punishment, but a tool to reinforce continued proper behavior and direction. Discipline, when done correctly, inspires obedience and submission to Feminine Authority and encourages continued progress on the part of the servant. Discipline is a part of almost every training lesson/class. If the male pays proper attention to how the Handmaiden serves the Domina, he will learn the correct attitude and behavior expected of a servant. He will hope to someday serve as the Handmaiden serves, and be allowed to pay homage and worship the sacred feet of the Domina with his mouth and tongue. He will hope to progress to that level of worthiness to be allowed to worship other parts of her sacred body. Such worship of the Domina is only won through long training, months of sacrifice and her indulgence. It is not a given, and especially not to a beginner. The sincere submissive male will strive strictest training for the chance to be judged worthy of licking and kissing the anus of the Domina. This is proof of his sincerity in submission and obedience to her will as Priestess and representative of the Goddess, as well as his surrender to Feminine Authority. If the submissive male is ever to become worthy of intimacy on this level with the Domina he must continue to surrender himself to her will, continue to make progress on the path he has chosen in servitude, and strive to please her with his submission and obedience to her authority. It is to this aspiration that the genuine submissive male dedicates himself completely. The submissive male will express gratitude to the Domina for teaching these lessons to improve himself. She casts aside the illusions of fetish fantasy and teaches him the truth of authentic Feminine Authority. She teaches him his proper position and how to live his life according to the ways of the Goddess. His gratitude should be always evident.