Training the Panty Maid Slave by Ms.C. What is a panty-maid? Well, in My world a panty-maid is one of many things. Basically though, a panty-maid is a submissive, usually male, who may or may not have a fetish for panties but is serving a Mistress in some capacity using panties, caring for them, wearing them and so forth. The panty-maid in My stable is allowed to participate in a wide variety of training and activities that I provide. Thus I will touch on many aspects of servitude in My domain in this discussion. Servitude in My domain is a finely woven tapestry involving all of the elements of Female domination. The panty fetish is a very interesting and deeply involved fetish that I believe goes back to ancient times. This particular garment covers the source of humanity, the Woman's vagina. So, indeed, probably in ancient cultures such a garment would have been considered magical. It would have within it all the essence of the Female, all the magic of the Feminine mystique. I have read also that the modern apron is symbolic of panties. Panties are used of course in Feminization. Even in very, very basic Feminization, I require a certain amount of panty wearing, either pink or white for the beginner. In fact, the beginner in Feminization with Me most likely will be wearing panties together with some form of garb such as a slip and an apron. That is the basic maid's uniform in My service. It is also the basic panty maid uniform. My view on male underwear is that I find it totally unattractive. I do not allow any of my male submissives to wear male underwear. In fact, I enjoy having a ritual in which they present them to Me and I cut them up in front of their eyes and burn them as they kneel and watch. It gives Me great pleasure to destory such masculine garments and has a very positive effect on My slaves, reinforcing their status in My domain. And then I bestow upon them their panties of servitude. These consist of pink or white panties adorned with rows of lace. Even the non-Feminine, non sissymaid male in My domain must wear panties as a symbol of their servitude to Me. It also makes it easier for them to learn a basic rule that goes along with the panties: they must always sit to pee in the bathroom. This makes them conscious, aware, of their servitude to Me in that if they're in public, they must seek out a bathroom that has a stall. No more using those nasty urinals. If you must wear panties, you must be sitting. The panties are a way to dominate My slave even when he is not in My presence. And they are invisible to the public eye beneath his normal street clothes. I imagine many more men than we are aware of are going about their daily lives with Women's panties safely hidden beneath their trousers. There are many duties of a panty-maid and I will be discussing them as we go along. However, basically the panty-maid may be dealing with hygiene, helping the Mistress with shopping, wearing and caring for panties and other garments . . . there are many duties for the panty-maid. There are also related duties not specifically involving the panties and I will discuss them as well. The Handmaiden and the maidservant. Some Dominant Women may indeed have a Female submissive who serves Them, but who, however, is put in charge of male submissives. This Female submissive would be called in My domain a Handmaiden. And the male submissive put in Her charge, the panty-maid or sissy-maid, or the beginner in Feminization would be a maidservant. A Handmaiden is a Female submissive; a maidservant is a male submissive. In My home, my Female live-in patty the pooch, is Miss Patty to My male submissives. She is currently also training as a Mistress under My guidance to be Dominant over men in Her own right. She enjoys training male slaves, being served and receiving full body massages. Now, panty-maid servitude and the lessons that are involved are part of My overall maidservant program, or sissy-maid School. This program (and there is a syllabus available, a four page syllabus, in fact) is dedicated to the training of qualified sissy-maids. These are sissy-maids qualified to serve a discriminating Dominant Woman. I have also as part of this program written a primer for sissy-maids which covers rules and things of that sort, attitude, dress, sample schedules, and things like that. In fact, I have written an entire sissy-maid training manual for the sissy-maid who would be serving in person, whether short term, long-term or live-in. And it delves into every aspect of her life, including a contract, daily schedules, clothing, rules, restrictions, sexuality, lessons, humiliation. Everything is included. That is a printed manual as well as being an audio cassette text. These materials are often given to My in-person trainees as homework, as well as being listened to with ear phones during some bondage meditation in My presence. My postal slaves are able to receive these materials as part of their training. Panties are a part of being a sissy. Let Me explain what a sissy is in My world. Webster may define sissy as unmanly or effeminate. And some may call such a male a wimp as a means of trying to degrade him. I sing praises to the wimp, the sissy. Indeed, this is the ultimately preferred male of Dominant women. he is meek and mild, docile and compliant, shy and unassuming, a joy to train and a treasure to own. his sissiness or being a wimp, is in fact his submission to Feminine Authority in the best way he knows how - emulating his Female Superiors. Sometimes a wimp is not also a sissy, but is indeed still an extremely desirable submissive. The pinky is the new trainee. Very green often enmeshed in fantasies, he is moldable into an acceptable slave. This postulant's first lesson is patience. Without patience he will never become the submissive she of a demanding Domina. Patience is taught through ordeals, seeming inattentiveness by the Mistress. Often the pinky will drop out, unable to learn the lesson of patience. It is vital that he learn patience, in so doing he is truly accepting the authority of the Mistress and putting his fate in Her capable hands. The novice is beginning to learn the arts and techniques of the trained maid. These are accomplished through the Maidservant Training Program and in person internships (if possible). He must learn the proper clothing, lingerie and uniforms of the trained sissy maid. he must learn the domestic skills, often the realm of the Handmaiden or house boy (unfeminized live in male servant). The difference being, he is a male learning to perform these duties and attitudes dressed and behaved as a female. The panty maid is solely concerned with the wear, care and worship of panties. he may also serve in other capacities as detailed here and elsewhere, but his primary service is to panties. The personal body servant is concerned with fulfilling the sensual needs of the Mistress as She desires. he is trained in how to perform these duties and what his limitations are. A Lady's maid, in My domain, is a fully trained servant that has progressed through My training and is ready and capable to fulfill all the roles previously discussed. There are different degrees of Lady's maid as I teach it. Along with panty-maid training and the maidservant program, I have developed a number of printed assignments and lectures, audio simulations, and audio lessons. These are also used as homework. The former include things like 'Panty-quest,' and 'Feminine Bathing.' I like My submissive males, especially sissy maids, to be very Feminine and to have soft, smooth, silky skin. And there is an exact technique for acquiring that skin and I call it 'Feminine Bathing.' Basically, I teach the sissy-maid how to bathe, how often to bathe, how long to remain in the bath, what to use for the bath, how to dress after the bath. In short, how to be Feminine about bathing. Long soaks in hot bubbly water do more than just soften the skin, they also provide a serene meditative peace of mind. Related aspects of My sissy-maid training programs include cooking and serving small meals to Me and My guests, sewing lace on panties and other small projects, household duties and chores, lingerie wear and care, nursery school including diapers, corsetting, learning proper slave positions, collaring and rituals of Ownership. The latter two are for dedicated real-life submission. Part of the maidservant program teaches about being a house maid, how to be a serving maid and how to be a personal maid, how to wear certain types of clothing, definitions concerning Feminine garments, My policies on bras and rationale against breast enhancement, etc. Altho I have heard that there are supplements that will give the sissy-maid a more feminine curve. Another part of the panty-maid and also the sissy-maid School program is brief training in sexual servitude for which I use a four-page test. The sissy-maid must answer a series of questions truthfully and honestly and send it back to Me or bring it to Me during his next in-person servitude. Then I will evaluate it and show them where their thinking may be a little off for My personal tastes. I also provide them with a forty-five minute audio lecture discussion follow-up on the sexual servitude test. The objective of the brief sexual servitude training is not that the sissy-maid may indeed serve me sexually, but that the sissy maid will learn how to should that ever occur. I also teach them how to properly perform oral service on the Mistress's vagina. An activity that I do enjoy. As a lifestyle Domina and as a believer in the philosophy, there are times when I do allow a submissive to serve Me in intimate ways. Of course, this is only if that submissive is available for that kind of service. Naturally, if he is married or has a significant other, he may not serve Me sexually in any way, shape, or form because I believe in loyalty. Yes, I understand that sexually serving a Dominant Woman and body-worship are not the same as ordinary sex. I feel that if another Woman is expecting loyalty, sexual loyalty, from that submissive male, then I mustn't do anything that would disrupt that. However, there are married submissives who do have their Wive's permission to serve in that capacity. This is all thoroughly discussed and negotiated should I wish to receive that type of service. Sexual servitude is the right of every Dominant Woman, but not every Dominant Woman wants it. So the submissive male should not be serving with that in mind. I make sure that all parameters of safesex are followed and enjoy using the colored plastic wraps as exotic safesex barriers for oral worship activities. I also enjoy using these for penis wraps, but that is beyond the scope of My topic for this discussion. Training in oral pleasure to the Mistress is different for everyone, and even I do not like the exact same service from each slave, so this must be taught on a one by one basis with lots of practice. This brief training in sexual servitude discusses the specific elements of body worship, sexual servitude, living dildo, sensual massage, full-body massage, Domina tease, Female orgasm and how to tell when a Woman orgasms (what are the signs) and the rationale behind such intimacy between a Dominant Woman and Her submissive. Naturally, not every submissive is suitable for sexual servitude. Not every submissive has the inclination nor would the Domina expect it. It is not something that can be forced if the chemistry isn't there. However, in most cases I do allow a little high-heel worship or foot worship, as I feel that is a very submissive token of their surrender to Me. For those that I allow to go further, I do indulge in full-body massage and body worship, etc. Part of the brief training in sexual servitude is also the Domina Sport Checklist. All the play activities of Female Domination I refer to as Domina Sport: the whipping, the paddling, body worship, tease, the submissive's reaching orgasm, all those things to Me are Domina Sport unless being used for training or punishment. In other words, they're separate from actual training in household duties, training in servitude, and other instruction sessions. Every Dominant Woman indulges in Domina Sport, and I, too, have a very healthy appetite for it. However, I look at it as the frosting on the cake, the reward for service well done. And yes, I reward My submissives, whether they are postal, or in-person, or live-in. I appreciate the gift a dedicated, well-behaved, enthusiastic slave gives to Me. A good slave should be cherished. Now, I would like to discuss levels of panty-maid servitude. There are various levels at which each submissive is capable of serving, and this is not just in panty-maid servitude, but in any type of submission to Feminine Authority. And I'd like to speak briefly as to how these correspond to My levels of submission as discussed in My article, "Techniques of Servitude." These levels apply in differing intensities both to the in-person submissive as well as postal or telephone trainee. The first of the five levels is the prelude to vanilla sex. In this case the submissive wants to do some fun, kinky things before having ordinary sexual intercourse. This is all well and good, but it doesn't meet My needs as a Dominant Woman. This is best suited for couples. Next is the hourly session. The hourly session is when a male comes to a Dominatrix and pays to enact the activities of Female Domination. They may or may not be submissive. Some hourly session males are quite submissive while others are of the strictly client mentality. Neither is better than the other, as I have had some very enjoyable sessions with both types. However, My personals must have some degree of submission in relationship to the D/s lifestyle. There is a difference between a session slave and a personal slave in the life of a lifestyle Mistress who is also a professional. The session slave reports at the appointed time and after discussion of his limits and expectations (negotiation), the Mistress carries out the session to the mutual enjoyment of both parties. This works best if the desired actvities are something that the Mistress enjoys doing, so that She is able to contribute enthusiasm to the session. There is nothing more boring than a "dead" session, one in which no common spark has been lit. Such sessions do not usually result in repeat, and most session Mistresses prefer a steady repeat of clientele to the one-timers. A personal slave in the life of a Mistress is one who serves part or full time, or even occasionally. There is usually no cash exchange for services type of transactions, although he may contribute to the household in whatever manner they agree upon. The personal often finds themselves doing a wide range of common place activities from household chores to errands to secretarial duties for the Mistress. BDSM activities are often of a sporadic nature, while some form of structure (rules and restrictions) are usually in place. A position as a personal to a particular Mistress is usually heavily sought after and considered a cut above others She may associate with. Some submissives prefer session and party play, while others need the full time space being a personal provides. It is up to the individual. While I do some hourly and afternoon sessions, I prefer personal servants and students in My postal programs and persons of that sort whom I am training in the realities of servitude to a very Dominant Woman in a lifestyle way. However, when I do take on an hourly, it is usually someone who is into something I'm into and would like to indulge in. Some examples of the latter might be extended restrictive bondage (This is fun as I do enjoy rope bondage, have been doing it for many years, and I understand all the ins and outs of it.), I enjoy creating My rope bondage webs, perhaps some form of Feminization and dressing, maid training, penis torment, murse and medical scenes, and a number of other activities. I prefer that even when I take on an hourly, that they do have some streak of genuine submissiveness in them. I find that much more enjoyable. However, one of My most memorable and favorite of all times client, was just that and nothing more, but we shared great times of extensive CB&T. Part of My training, especially in person, requires putting the submissive through physical exams. And, as I've written extensively on that elsewhere, I'll only touch on it here for the purpose of this introductory discussion. These physical exams are carried out in a number of ways: strictly Dominant, Dominant Nurse, Nanny, School Nurse. And, yes, there is some role-playing to it. However, whatever the scenario, the goal is the same: putting the body of the submissive through a variety of exercises that amuse Me. Sometimes I even test their potency by having them kneel before Me and masturbate to orgasm. I enjoy watching a man eat his own cum after entertaining Me with his masturbation antics. If My panties get wet watching, I remove them and have him wear them over his face as he continues to pump his cock for My pleasure. Sometimes I allow him to orally worship Me as he pumps himself off. One serious aspect of the physical exam is to discuss any health problems or prior injuries to their body that they need Me to be aware of before putting them through their paces. I have been actively certified in CPR since the early 70's and consider it a must for those who engage in BDSM activities. Also, My college work in psychology and behavioral sciences has given me many insights that have assisted in the training of submissives over the years. Now, back to the levels of submission. We've discussed prelude to vanilla sex, and the hourly session. There's also the errand boy, part time houseboy or errand slave. This is more or less a submissive who is more dedicated to the lifestyle aspects of Female Domination and who can report in person once a week or so to carry out duties and chores that the Dominant Woman would like him to do. In return, he gets the pleasure of Her company and various aspects of the training needed to help develop his submission, as well as play opportunities. These chores can be anything from doing the laundry, picking up Her mail, taking Her for a drive, escorting Her to a scene party, or maybe just casual social company like taking Her out to eat. The errand-boy or errand-submissive lives under a stricter sense of rules than the hourly or even the postal. Usually there is an Ownership contract. Usually a collar is worn at times, but not generally at all times due to the discretion aspects involved. It is clearly understood that in the level of priorities, the submissive's employment must come first, along with health and previous significant other (wife, etc.) type commitments. However, after those things are met, he belongs to Me for My use, needs and desires. Also, I expect loyalty, no hopping to another Mistress to play without My permission. I do allow My slaves to play with other Mistresses on occasion if they are Women I know and trust. I value the safety of My slaves and will not jeopardize it. I am, however, a possessive Mistress and prefer that My slaves serve only Me. Occasionally, because I don't want to spoil him, I will reward him with Domina Sport in which we will have fun and I will fulfill some of his submissive needs and desires, as well as My Dominant and fetish desires. But the goal of the submissive who serves Me as a personal must be to serve Me well, to be obedient to Me, to fulfill My Dominant desires, needs and fantasies. In return, if he serves Me well, he will receive fulfillment of his own. he doesn't need to push for them because he will receive them simply as rewards for pleasing Me. In My own time and in My own way, I don't like to feel obligated, but that I am enjoying a mutual gift. Again, the reward is the icing on the cake, not the main event. The part-time live-in is someone who can only report for weekends or over-nights or, occasionally, for a week because they are usually married or have previous commitments, or are in the service. I even have slaves who report to Me during their summer vacation from work to spend some time as a live-in slave. They must live under contract, with all the same rules and guidelines as the full-time live-in. The full-time live-in is completely and totally controlled. At this time, I have a Female live-in. She lives under certain rules that are expressed in her contract. She is guided by Me and must discuss major decisions with Me. I train her to be the slave I want her to be. She must live under a certain daily schedule and this would be the same when I have a male live-in. I am presently considering applications for live in males and those who can come to Me on short-term (two week) live-in basis while My female is out of town. This is a personal slave position, not session. Back to the panty-maid. These five levels of submission also apply to the panty-maid. You can have the panty-maid who just likes to wear panties while having sex, or the panty-maid who wants to be totally, completely committed to a Dominant Woman as a full-time, live-in, consensually owned piece of property, slave. These levels really are not as simplistic and clear cut as I have just explained. This is a bit generalized, often these levels can over lap and a particular slave can be operating on two or more of them depending on his personal circumstances and each is an individual with their own set of needs. However, for the purposes of this discussion, this will give you an idea of how I classify My slaves. Another important aspect of panty-maid servitude and the training of a good panty-maid is, of course, the wear and care of panties. Now the first thing we must think about is shopping, and there are three ways this is accomplished. Number one, My submissive shops alone for panties following either the panty-quest or explicit instructions I give regarding exactly what kind of panties I want him to wear. Or, the submissive goes shopping with Me. This is a very enjoyable, fun, outdoor adventure. Not only do I do panty shopping this way, I also do lingerie shopping this way, as I like to find pretty things in which to dress up My submissives. So, when shopping with the Mistress, the panty-maid will come with Me to different stores where I will look through the panties and find exactly the ones I want him to wear for Me. he will do the purchasing. After all, this is his clothing. Now and then I have had a submissive ask Me if I would like some lingerie, also, and I would indicate My choices when we go shopping. However, the whole point of the adventure is to teach the submissive how to shop for panties and to enjoy this special time with the Mistress. There is also the possibility of the adventure adding a little public humiliation spice. Public humiliation and BDSM activities in public around "vanilla" people must be carried out very carefully. It is considered poor form to involve people in these activities without their consent. Things that look natural, like purchasing lingerie, or even wearing it under street clothes are safe from the unknowing eye. It is perfectly safe to do or say things that have special meanings that only the Mistress and the slave are aware of. I have always been a strict believer in discretion since I live in conservative small-town New England, and shrink away from controversial dress and behavior such as the outlandish costumes and multi-body piercings that are forced on the public eye in more saavy locales. No one has ever asked My consent to view such spectacles on the city streets, but there they are for all to see. Compared to a little simple hidden public humiliation, I prefer the latter. And of course, this is usually with a slave who gets a certain thrill from such activities. The third option in shopping for panties is that I go out and find the panties Myself. I do this occasionally if I am going to reward my panty-maid with a certain type or pair of panties as a surprise gift. Or perhaps I'm going to find just that right item. I also do this in the case of selecting new panties that I am going to wear and then give My deserving slave. Many panty fetish slaves want to worship the well worn panties of the Mistress, and it is a reward that I do give out. Sometimes I like to dress My submissive panty-maid in babydolls. These are usually found in the Ladies lingerie departments with the best selections being found usually in the spring or summer right along with the other types of nightwear. The more sissy the better. I like them preferably in pink with little flowers and a little bit of lace. I think they're simply adorable in cotton or some kind of jersey knit that's suitable for a babydoll. The one piece rompers found in Ladies wear are also very suitable for My sissies. However, I do also allow My panty maids to wear beautiful, sexual, sensual, lingerie when I like the color and how it looks on them. I'm very partial to the little two-piece sets, the little shorty sets with matching sheer robe. Garter belt and stockings complete the look. I do not prefer My submissives to wear long lingerie. they should be wearing short things that make their genitals and buttocks easily accessible to My Dominant hands. The panty-maid is taught how to wear panties for Me, changing them, washing them, etc. Wearing them includes how they fit, how to wear the back of the panties up the crack of the buttocks if that's what I wish, how often I like them changed, and so forth. I prefer that the panties be worn daily and changed daily. So a panty-maid should have a good supply of panties available. They should be washed by hand, using a form of soap that is good for delicate items, preferably Woolite. And how are they washed by hand? Well, there's an entire lesson in the sissy-maid School on this, but briefly they are first sucked for juices by the panty-maid, he must be sure that he gets as much of My essence out of the panties before continuing to clean them. They are then allowed to soak and then, very gently, the panties are swished in the cool water. Then the panties are picked up and the crotch area is examined for any telltale stains. If stains are found, the crotch areas are rubbed together with a little of the Woolite to get them nice and clean and then they are rinsed well and hung out to dry. Panties should always be hand washed. My panties are hand washed by My panty-maids. The most soiled pair is saved for last so that the panty-maid can wear it as a face mask and gag, sucking My juices as he carries out his task. I think that it is very important that panties fit well. I do not like to see baggy panties. I do not like to see panties in which that overgrown sissy-clit is falling out the side. I like to see panties that fit well, that show off the buttocks. I very much like the look of a submissive's ass and I like it to look nice in panties. So the panties should fit snugly, but not so snug that there isn't room for everything. Therefore, usually a brief style or a full-cut bikini style is best. I've noticed in Frederick's that they have crotch-less and tearaway panties. I like the idea of the crotch-less panties for My panty-maid in that her sissy-clit can hang free so that I can attach pretty pink ribbons or bells or a sissy-clit harness, or any one of a number of other fun things to it. The crotch-less panties also work well for the slave who is selected to act as My living dildo. I can get at the cock easily and apply a condom for his service. I also wear crotch-less panties when I am teaching oral servitude. With tearaway panties there are any number of fun activities that can happen, so tearaway panties from Frederick's are also a good idea for the panty-maid. There are colors that are acceptable, borderline acceptable, and unacceptable for my panty-maids. I do not want them to wear black. Black is worn only by an advanced, fully-trained submissive and for special occasions. After all, black is the color normally reserved solely for the Mistress or Mistress in training. Pink, white, or pale pastels are best for the panty maid. If I want my panty-maid to be a slut, I'll say so and then they should wear red panties. But most of the time I want them to be sweet and docile, so pink or white with a little bit of frill is nice, a little bit of lace, a little decoration, a little pink rosebud, those are all nice little touches on the panties. Colors have meaning to Me. In fact, this is one of the aspects of the postcard color command program. And one of the commands in that program is to wear pink panties for twenty-four hours a day one day. My postcard command program is very enjoyable to Me. And My submissives enjoy it as well because they never know when they're going to get a card in the mail and what they're going to have to do when they get that card. It's very discrete, the card simply has a color written on it and they must refer to the list I send them of what each color means so that they can do what they are being commanded to do. It's a lot of fun. Another thing about the wear and care of panties: My panty-maids must wear sissy-panties when in strict training with Me. These are the type of panties that have lace on them, known as sissy panties or rhumba panties. They're available at a variety of places. They can be found at places that have square dance outfits, at transvestite boutiques, and at various companies that make adult baby clothes and other such things. Sissy-panties are usually pink, although I do allow other colors on special occasions or as a panty-maid or sissy-maid advances in My training. My Female slave has a wide variety of these in different colors that she sometimes wears with bras and fishnets making a very sweet picture of submission. Now, there are a number of duties that the panty-maid carries out for the Mistress. And, of course, many of these things are taught in My sissy-maid School. These are included in the material available in the program. However, I will briefly discuss some of them right now. As I mentioned earlier, one of the duties is shopping, shopping for panties for the Mistress, either with Her or on your own. You must know what colors She likes, Her sizes, Her favorite styles. This is a very enjoyable adventure for the dedicated submissive in that he knows that he is getting something She will wear intimately. Something that will press against Her body and absorb Her Feminine juices and be from him. It is almost, in a sense, a chance for him to touch Her, touch Her intimately without really touching Her. Often a slave may also volunteer to purchase lingerie from Frederick's for the same reason. I like to pose in photos of such gifts and give them to the particular slave as a gift from Me for his kind generous nature. Another one of the panty duties for the Mistress is hygiene duty. Now and then I will assign this particular task to a submissive who I think is capable of carrying it out. What this requires is providing Me monthly with My menstrual needs. Sometimes these menstrual needs include new panties as the panties I have get stained with blood. These stained panties must simply be discarded or, sometimes they are given to the hygiene panty-slave as a rewardif he desires to have them. When they are discarded, obviously, new panties must replace them. So one of the hygiene duties of the panty-maid that is selected for that particular aspect, is to provide new panties on a regular basis. This might be in the form of panties he purchases or in the form of gift certificates from Frederick's or places like that so that the Mistress may select Her own new panties. Or in person shopping as I discussed earlier. Another one of the panty duties for the panty-maid is helping Mistress dress. It can be quite enjoyable to have the panty-maid help Me on with My panties while I'm teasing him. Imagine kneeling before Me as I sit on the edge of the bed. Holding My panties in Your hands, you must slip My foot through one leg hole and start the panties up My leg. And then you must slip My other foot through the other leg hole. All the while, I'm sitting there laughing, My hands back to My sides, because I know exactly what you can see, but can't touch. If I am in that mood, I allow the already trained slave to provide Me with vaginal worship as he is getting Me into My panties. At the very least, he is allowed to kiss the crotch of My panties after they are nestled in place covering My vagina. Other times he may be requested to attend Me in the bathroom performing various toilet duties as I desire. Helping Mistress dress is one of the duties of a well-trained submissive; however, it is reserved for a well-trained submissive that knows what his limits are, what he can and cannot do. In other words, he is aware of the rules for proper behavior in My domain. Obviously, when a Dominant Woman likes to tease a submissive, this is one way She will do it. It's not that She can't put them on for Herself, but it is sometimes enjoyable to sexually torment your slave. And this can extend to helping Me on with My bra, helping lift My large breasts into the cups and adjusting the straps, helping Me on with My lingerie or My leather if I'm in the mood for that, My hose and heels or whatever I'm going to wear, brushing My long brown hair, etc. As with panties, helping Me on with My bra sometimes also gives the slave the opportunity to worship My breasts and suck My nipples. In fact, I expect it when he is getting My breasts into the bra. Sometimes he must pull on the bra using only his lips and tongue, no hands. These are the duties of my personal maid and sometimes the panty maid is called upon to perform the duties of a personal maid either because he has advanced to that level or because the Mistress's usual submissive that performs these services is out of town or otherwise unavailable. This might be the case of the Handmaiden being away to visit her family and while she is away someone must carry out her normal duties the Mistress is accustomed to having done for Her. So, often a panty-maid or someone in the sissy-maid School is called upon to provide this kind of service. Again, as I said earlier, if he is available at the time. I often call such a slave a "substitute personal" and do consider applications for the substitute position. The substitute can also be a postal, telephone or errand-slave when not performing substitute duty as a temporary live-in. Another panty duty for the Mistress, and this can be involved in training, is removing Her panties from Her body when She wishes to change them. I like to do this while standing with My submissive kneeling at My feet, hands tied behind his back, removing My panties with his teeth, tongue and lips. This is an enjoyable little exercise in that the panties must not be snagged, nor may the teeth graze against My soft skin. It takes a little doing and the submissive must inch very slowly with these panties so as not to disrupt the nylon or My flesh. Gently grasping the waistband with his teeth, he pulls a little on each side, then in the front and in the back, pulling them down over My buttocks and away from My vagina and easing them gently down My legs. Often, he must also grasp the elastic legbands on the inside of My thighs and coax the panties away from My vagina. This can be a very intimidating experience for some submissives as I stand there with My hands on My hips, watching the progress. Sometimes I laugh and other times I actually have an orgasm as his hot breath does this menial chore. A good job is rewarded with appropriate pleasure for both Mistress and slave. Another of the panty duties for the Mistress that is carried out by the panty-maid or the sissy-maid is the washing, drying, and folding of Her panties. As I said earlier, I insist that all panties be hand washed. And this means doing so as I described earlier, putting them in the proper place to dry and then folding them neatly and presenting them to Me for My approval. Sometimes I will require one of My postal sissy-maids to do this hand washing exercise at home and then send them to Me for Me to examine and see if it was done properly. Of course, he is taught how to worship them properly first as he must suck all juices from them before the hand washing. Then My panty-maid is rewarded or punished as the case may be. Good panty service is one way to advance rapidly in My domain and receive the rewards reserved for intimate servitude. Another thing I have My panty-maids do for Me, and this goes along with dressing and caring for Me, is that sometimes I like My panties perfumed using one of My favorite perfumes or My Lilac Evelyn and Crabtree toilet water. My favorite perfumes include Red, Chanel #5, and various other good perfumes. Also in the realm of body servitude that I talked about earlier, if I have had a full body massage, I will want the perfume on My panties to match the perfume of the lotion. Say that I have had My submissive massage My entire body from head to toe, and this includes My breasts, My buttocks, My labia, massage My entire body with Red lotion (Red isn't the color but the brand name), I will then want a little bit of Red perfume sprayed near the waistband of My panties, but not on the crotch area as My labia are sensitive and prone to break out once the moisture starts mixing with the perfume. Further, during inner vaginal massage I do not want the lotion inside of Me. The panty-maid uses his hands, lips and sometimes lotion covered cock to give My full body massage. Another panty duty, in fact, it's more in the way of a reward, is that good panty-maids will receive the Mistress's worn panties to worship, admire, and then wash and return. And then there are exercises that involve panty humiliation. And humiliation is different for each person, so of course, as a well-versed Domina, I'm going to experiment a little and find out what the level of humility and effective humiliation are for My panty-maid. Another panty duty is that I sometimes require that My panty-maid experience the orgasm control kit. Now I do have an article written describing the orgasm control kit. The article was written by a student who underwent it. Basically the kit consists of four audio cassettes and a pair of panties and some very detailed and explicit instructions on how to carry out the exercise and how to learn orgasm control through the use of very extreme tease and My panties. The things I talk about on those tapes are simply diabolical, describing servicing My full ass and more and I can tell that the submissive does indeed learn control by the time he has completed the orgasm control kit. And another panty duty of the panty-maid that involves the Mistress is Domina tease when She wants to tease him with Her panties or the sight of Her wearing Her panties or, perhaps placing Her panties over his head, or making him masturbate while grasping Her panties around his sissy-clit. I like to tease a slave with My big breasts as well, pulling his head beneath them or running them up and down his bound body and over-grown sissy clit. Of course, I enjoy his attentions as he attempts to worship My breasts and suck on My nipples. I adore breast worship. But woe be unto the submissive who dares ejaculate on My panties. Ohhh yessss, that calls for punishment, indeed. A fitting punishment is some good cock bondage or the application of a cock whip. Another form of panty tease I enjoy is face-sitting and semi smother. I do enjoy controlling the very air a man breathes and making sure that air is scented with My heavy Womanly aroma. My favorite position for face-sitting is to have My slave lay across the bed on his back with his head near the edge. I can then straddle his face while still standing securely on the floor. This gives Me added leverage and control, working equally well for semi-smother. I can direct his face to My vagina or anus as the case may be and get full service of his mouth, tongue and nose. In this position, I can also reach his cock for tease and torment as well as being able to lean over and torment him with My large breasts. I enjoy long periods of face-sitting with and without My panties on. The slave is instructed on how to use his tongue in this position. Now, I'd like to briefly describe a typical panty-training class. Of course, I go into this much deeper in various training materials, so for the purpose of our discussion now, I'm just going to lightly touch upon it. A typical panty-training class, especially the first one, begins much like many of My other training classes. First, the submissive is taught some aspect of attitude and is made to carry out some task or tasks. he may or may not be subjected to some Domina Sport in which I will do some Female Dominant activities that I enjoy. If I am in a playful mood, I will teach him to endure face-sitting as I have just described. And I will make an evaluation of his performance, his endurance, his attitude, and his level of trust. Trust goes both ways, of course. I emphasize the difference between discipline and punishment. Again, many submissives ask for punishment when, really, they just want to play. To Me, punishment is very serious consequence to offensive behavior. Punishment puts Me in a bad mood, and I no longer want to have anything to do with the slave. It's not a game for Me. The ultimate punishment is total banishmentm a fate My slaves do not wish to endure. Now, discipline can be mental or physical. These things are discussed much more fully as a submissive endures and undergoes and progresses in My training of him. I feel that there is great deal of value in his learning obedience, trust and respect. Trust and respect are only learned as he gets to know Me and know that I truly value his submission. If I did not value it, he would not be with Me. I am not one to use and discard slaves as if they had no feelings, I put My heart into Female Domination all the way. Those that get to know Me are often surprised at My many facets. Naturally, the submissive must be obedient and he will learn to trust Me as I learn to trust him. Honesty and dependability are very important for that trust to develop. I do not ask that a submissive respect me before he even knows Me. he will come to respect Me as he gets to know Me and to learn what I am about. I expect him, though, to have a simple respect in which he is loyal, he treats Me with courtesy, and he doesn't talk out of place, that is, talk to other people about what privately transpires between Me and him. Even discussing with My other slaves, this is a private matter between the two of us. If a slave talks out of turn, I will no longer trust him and without trust the relationship will not last. Eventually the deeper respect that a Dominant Woman deserves will come. Much of My training, much of how I live as a Dominant Woman, stresses reality versus fantasy. There is a time and place for fantasy, and yes I am willing to explore it. Put aside all the fantasies you have about what it is to be a panty-maid and let Me take you step by step into the reality. The reality of serving a real Dominant Woman who lives this philosophy as a very real lifestyle. I am accustomed to having submissives wait on Me hand and foot. However, I am an independent, strong Woman and do not need it. I earn it through how I handle them. In using the word real, do not become confused thinking that I somehow judge others as not real. There is no such definition. We each create our own reality. What is real for Me may only be a game for someone else, and vise versa. I speak of real in the context of calling a figure in an un-realized fantasy as unreal, nothing more. I prefer that a submissive and a panty-maid serve Me through love, not fear. However, they must have a strong handle on that love and not let it become obsessive. I am not looking for a mate, a husband, a lover or a consort. I am looking for good submissives. I have written quite extensively about what I seek in a male submissive and I do have some handouts regarding in person servitude for submissives who want to serve Me in person, both in the training class capacity or hourly, or as an errand servant, live-in slave, someone who wants to report to Me weekly and carry out the duties that I need carried out. Those who are accepted for intimate service must be aware of, and use, safesex principles for the protection of Myself and My slave. Of course, one thing that's very important is that the submissive must know that he must be able to work well with My Female submissive unless he is applying for the substitute position in which he will only serve me when she is out of town. I do not accept any form of jealously. I have zero tolerance for it and I am very strict about dependability and punctuality. I expect a submissive to check in with Me from time to time and I allow him to have My phone number to do this. he is expected to call Me if he can't make it at an appointed time. In fact, he is expected to call and confirm when he is on his way so that I know. My postal requirements are also outlined in My various writings and they are strict as well. I accept a special type of submissive: one who is not just out to play but is also interested in providing servitude in return for play. While I like to play, it is not the entire focus; it is what I do as a reward or to relax. What is the focal purpose of Female Domination for Me? It is training dedicated submissives in the art of true surrender. And the panty-maid is no exception. Whether you want to indulge in panty-maid training just to satisfy your fetish or to go all the way to becoming My full-time submissive, there is a place for you in My domain. I do accept part-time explorers, those not yet recognizing their own personal dance with submission, but eager to give it a try. I hope I have given you much food for thought. I know that I have enjoyed this time with you and hope you have enjoyed it as well. you have been given a brief look into My world. I will be more than happy to lead you all the way.